If we’re going to grow in partnership, we need to abandon the ludicrous notion that our friend/lover/partner is here to make us happy all the time. Letting go of that fantasy allows us to start the long, empowering journey of taking responsibility for our own well-being.

Nico Hase (?-), Nico Hase is an American Buddhist meditation teacher, psychologist, author, and retreat leader whose work draws from Insight (Vipassanā), Zen, and Vajrayāna traditions. He serves as a guiding teacher of the online dharma community Refuge of Belonging and teaches retreats at organizations such as the Insight Meditation Society and Spirit Rock Meditation Center.